JT Training Guide: A Compassion-Based Framework for Emotional Intelligence

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SECTION 1: Core Foundations

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Core Premise:

“All behaviours are different levels of insecurity. Love is the complete lack of it.”

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Reframe:

• Behaviour ≠ Character.

• Behaviour = Security Level.

• When someone lashes out, they’re not “bad”—they’re “scared.”

• Our job is not to correct—it’s to connect.

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SECTION 2: The Ladder of Insecurity

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Visual Metaphor:

A vertical ladder representing:

• Top: 100% insecurity → Fear, Control, Ego, Chaos (high frequency)

• Bottom: 0% insecurity → Love, Calm, Peace, Compassion (low frequency)

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Paradigm Shift:

• Don’t climb to power—descend into love.

• Strength is not dominance. Strength is offering love in the face of fear.

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SECTION 3: Key Tools in Practice

TOOL - 🗣️Validation over Judgment

PURPOSE - Disarms fear, opens trust

APPLICATION - Respond: “That makes sense you’d feel that way.”

TOOL - ✋ Danger Stop, Fear Go

PURPOSE - Pause before reacting

APPLICATION - Ask: “What fear is underneath this reaction?”

TOOL - 🌱 BINT vs POINT

PURPOSE - Break cycles of trauma

APPLICATION - Choose to heal, not repeat inherited patterns

TOOL - 🤫 Silence as Safety

PURPOSE - Makes space for others to feel seen

APPLICATION - Listen without fixing. Let silence do the loving.

TOOL - 🔦 Cognitive Reallocation

PURPOSE - Switch focus from self to others

APPLICATION - Shift from “Why are they doing this to me?” → “What fear might they be carrying?”

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SECTION 4: Practical Scenarios

Scenario 1: A student lashes out in class.

• Old Frame: “That’s disrespectful. Consequence needed.”

• Joey’s Frame: “That behaviour is fear in disguise. How can I help them feel safer?”

Scenario 2: A team member shuts down during feedback.

• Old Frame: “They’re avoiding accountability.”

• Joey’s Frame: “They may fear rejection. Can I validate their value before continuing?”

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SECTION 5: Building a Culture of Safety

🧠 Redefine:

• Strength = Vulnerability + Love in Action

• Success = How safe others feel around you

• Power = Security you generate in others

🫂 Model Emotional Fluency:

• Create Love Labs: zones of psychological safety

• Use Safety Check-ins

• Celebrate Bravery in Honesty, not just performance

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SECTION 6: Reflection Prompts

1. When have I acted from insecurity today?

2. When did I offer love to someone else’s fear?

3. What part of the ladder was I on today—and how did it affect my behaviour?

4. Where can I choose validation instead of correction?

5. How can I turn today’s conflict into an act of healing?

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SECTION 7: Sample Mantras for Training

• “I meet fear with love.”

• “Insecurity is not weakness—it’s a signal.”

• “The louder the ego, the deeper the fear.”

• “Love doesn’t need proof. It gives anyway.”

• “Peace is a practice. I descend toward it.”

Source: CHATGPT, July 2025